FOLIO
Here we go, Shari and Terry! I’m ready for a little guidance please.
My sister’s boyfriend of four years has, in my opinion, always been a little forward and flirtatious with me. The first time he hit on me was about three years ago. He said something that crossed the line, and I immediately shot him down and told my sister what happened. They seemed to have settled it on their own, but over the past year he seems to be taking some not-so-obvious shots. Borderline stuff that has a lot of gray area so I just ignore him.
Fast forward to an anniversary party we had for our parents. Granted there was a lot of drinking going on and in front of the entire family he pulled me close onto him with his hands on my ass. I pulled away, and it must have looked funny because everybody laughed. I shot my sister a “get the jerk under control look,” but nothing happened. He followed me everywhere that night. If I went to the kitchen, he would appear 30 seconds later giving me creepy vibes all along. When we walked to our car later in the evening, he was right there with another hug and a whisper in my ear saying, “We could keep this in the family.”
This upset me so much that when I got home I texted him saying, “I’m over the game, and it’s about to get ugly for you.” He decided to show my sister the text telling her that I’m coming on to him!
She believed him and now doesn’t want to talk to me anymore. How did this happen? What can I do?
Angi P.
St. Augustine
TERRY: Oh, boy. This one isn’t going to be easy.
SHARI: It is for me.
TERRY: Really?
SHARI: Yes.
TERRY: Well, I have a few more questions.
SHARI: Like what?
TERRY: Like, is he a good kisser?
SHARI: Ewww. Stop. This is pretty cut and dry for me, Angi. First, you did the right thing by telling your sister. Then you continued to do the right thing by calling him out. Stand tall. You did nothing wrong.
TERRY: This may be a blessing.
SHARI: How?
TERRY: Less family obligations now. I’m always looking for a way out.
SHARI: I have a prediction. Nobody wants to believe their better half is scum so they let them off the hook a lot. I think once the dust settles, she will be honest about this guy.
TERRY: Yes! And an apology will be waiting from your sister. So until then just sit back with confidence knowing you’ve done nothing wrong and that it’s their problem now.
SHARI: But I would tell the entire family the whole story. Don’t be worried if they believe you or not. Time is your friend on this one.
TERRY: I agree. Put it ALL out there now. You will gain a lot of respect in the end.
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