FOLIO
Please be gentle with me. I just reread my email and I sound like an idiot.
I’m in love with my best friend. His name is Scott and he has two beautiful boys. He’s a very good father, but he can’t seem to get a hold of his finances. His friend Mark does his taxes and balances his checkbook. He has severe ADHD, and it comes into play in every aspect of his life.
He and I dated a couple of years ago, but he cheated on me. I stopped talking to him for over a year, and we’ve recently connected again and my feelings are back. The sex is great, but I feel like I’m just being kept around for that. Oh, and that I shower him with gifts. I bought him a new Xbox and TV. He makes way more money than I do, but I got it for him anyway.
Last Friday he went out of town, and I found out that it was a lie. Apparently he went to see a woman he met online. He doesn’t know that I know, and he wants to see me this weekend and I know it’s just for sex.
I don’t know why I love him. The sex is great, but there has to be more than that right, y’all?
Patty B
Mobile, Alabama
TERRY: OH, DEAR LORD!
SHARI: Terry … breathe. I’m a woman. I’m the one who should be screaming here.
TERRY: Well, what are you waiting for?
SHARI: She asked us to be gentle.
TERRY: So.
SHARI: Well Patty, you were 100% correct. You do look like an IDIOT.
TERRY: That’s my girl. More …
SHARI: This “man” is a jerk.
TERRY: So are you, Patty.
SHARI: Stop it, Terry. Let’s check the score here. Kids, can’t balance a checkbook, cheated on you, cheated on you again, you shower him with gifts and then he gets to have sex with you. I think it’s time for you to read this email a few more times.
TERRY: Ya think?
SHARI: Please, for all the other women in the world, please get as far away from this guy as possible.
TERRY: And get as close as you can to a therapist.
SHARI: Bingo! You have some serious self-worth issues. Use that big heart of yours on yourself before anyone else gets to experience it.
TERRY: Yes! I feel for you. I really do. He’s not a good guy. Period and you deserve better but that won’t happen until you feel that way too.
SHARI: I’ve noticed that people say way too long in these toxic relationships. Who knows for what reasons. But you are in one. It’s time to admit it. It’s OK. You’re not alone here. But maybe it’s time to literally be alone.
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