Congratulations. Your current dilemmas are more useful and interesting than any you’ve had for a long time. If you can even partially solve them, the changes set in motion will improve your entire life, not just the circumstances they immediately affect. Of the several dividends you may reap, one of my faves is: You could liberate yourself from a messed-up kind of beauty and be available for a more soothing, delightful kind. Another potential benefit: You transform yourself in ways to attract more useful, interesting dilemmas.