TV comedian Stephen Colbert confesses his safeword is “pumpkin patch.” Does that mean he participates in actual BDSM rituals? Is it the codeword he says when he doesn’t want the intensity to increase, when he doesn’t want the next boundary crossed? I don’t know. He may be simply joking or speaking metaphorically. Whether or not you engage in literal BDSM, there’s an aspect of your life now with metaphorical resemblances to it. Do the equivalent of using your safeword soon. Nothing can be gained staying embroiled in your predicament. Even if it’s been interesting or educational up to now, it won’t be much longer. Escape your bondage.